Potty Training Tips
Having a kid was exciting for me for lots of reasons, but a big one is that I FINALLY got to test out all my theories and advice I’ve been giving to parents for years!! Not that Wren is my little experiment, but, boy, is it fun (and humbling) to learn when I was way off base and when I hit the nail on the head. Potty training is our most recent adventure!
We’ve had lots of messes to clean up, and just when I think we’re good, we have some setbacks, but for the most part, she’s getting it. Her preschool didn’t require her to be potty trained, so we went into it without pressure. Here are some tips that helped us if you’re considering potty training your toddler soon.
- Starting at 18mo, you can introduce the right words. We use shishi, doodoo, potty, and toilet. You can mention it all the time, when you change her diaper, when you see the dogs making shishi or doodoo, and even when you go. Surround her with the language.
- Be observant and look for telltale signs that she’s going potty. You know that face.
- Buy a potty chair and start having her play with it and sit on it. Make it fun, not intimidating.
- Explain that shishi and doodoo go in the potty, you can even dump from the diaper into her potty so she can see and understand.
- Read potty training books together, watch videos (Elmo!) and buy special underwear and treat wearing it as a privilege saved for boys and girls that go potty
- Be a role model and let her be curious by watching you go. You’ll get used to having a tag-along.
When to start?
Kids are usually ready:
- When they can tell you they have to go
- When they know what a potty is for
- When they like to sit on the potty
- When they can respond to verbal instructions
This can be anywhere from 21mo to 36mo of age
- When you start, go to the potty often and make it part of the normal routine
- Introduce the idea of sitting on the potty without a diaper or pull up. She can sit while you’re on your potty or she can just hang out and read a book
- It’s best to stay in diapers until she remains dry for about 2 weeks
- For boys, if you’re training him to shishi sitting down, you should have his male role models shishi sitting down as well, so it’s not confusing
- When you switch to training pants, expect accidents. Don’t get mad. Explain that shishi or doodoo goes in the potty and have her help you clean up.
- Remember LOADS of praise and positivity!
- Set your expectations: most potty training takes a few months. Nighttime dryness can take a few years.
There are many other strategies for potty training, such as the 3-day method and elimination communication, so if you have any specific questions about your desired method, don’t hesitate to shoot us an email and we can discuss!